Members of a popular internet forum were quick to call out an expectant mother, whose favorite baby name has the potential to leave family members fighting for generations.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/aitababyname_ (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) shared that she and her husband are expecting their first child – a girl, and revealed how the One of the potential baby names has already put a pair of brothers totally at odds.
Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for choosing the same name for my baby as my [brother-in-law’s] unborn baby?” Publish received over 13,500 upvotes and nearly 6,000 comments in the past day.
“My (31F) husband (33M) and his brother…are not very close,” OP began. “But he seems to be a little jealous of my husband and…everything we have.”
Continuing to explain that she and her husband are “pretty sure” of their baby’s name, OP described the nickname as “pretty unique” for contemporary times and said she loves it.
OP also said there was a major problem with the couple’s number one choice: he had already been chosen by his brother-in-law’s former partner, who died while pregnant.
“It’s the name that [brother-in-law] and his girlfriend chose for their baby 3 years ago, but the baby sadly died,” OP wrote. “His girlfriend chose the name of her favorite ballet.
“We were at a family event this weekend and I mentioned that we had that name in mind,” OP continued. “[Brother-in-law] looked a little surprised…[and] started [asking] if we could reconsider.
“I got a little mad and told him he didn’t own the name, and they should be hoping for a healthy baby instead of worrying about the names,” OP added. “[He] dropped him after that, but my [husband’s sister] told me and my husband that we don’t care and are hurting him on purpose.”
Everyone, for better or worse, has their own opinion on baby names.
Whether it’s a family member, a celebrity, or even a colleague’s cousin who’s been the subject of office gossip, baby names are hotly debated, at both in the real world and on the Internet.
But from Emily and Jacob, the two most popular name choices in the United States in 2001, to Liam and Olivia, the two most popular in 2021, baby names are almost always the result of contemporary trends, fictional fandoms and, in many cases, families. tradition.
Naming a child after a relative, living or not, continues their legacy and can often, but not always, be an honor.
“It’s always a sign of love to name your little one after a family member. But choosing a baby name this way can cause a few headaches,” Pampers said. website bed.
“If you’re going to name your child after someone who’s still alive, that’s fine, unless it means excluding someone else,” he continues. “Long-dead parents can’t complain about being ignored, but if you start naming babies after siblings, you’re either going to run out of family tree names or you’re going to run out of babies.”
And as often and always, the difference between honor and mimicry is major and has the potential to cause significant problems between family members.
Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors acknowledged the negative connotations associated with OP’s choice of baby name and echoed his sister-in-law’s sentiment that while the names cannot be possessed, certain choices must remain prohibited.
“[You’re the a**hole]“, wrote Redditor u/mm172 in the main comment of the post, which received nearly 43,000 upvotes.
“No, they don’t own the name,” they continued. “It doesn’t mean they’re wrong that you should reconsider when you’ve clearly known for years that it’s special for them.”
Redditor u/darkswanjewelry, whose comment received over 20,000 upvotes, offered a more pointed response.
“What you do is make sure [brother-in-law] will never be able to look at you or his niece again,” they wrote. “There are thousands of names, you can find another that suits you.
“You ‘can’ legally do it obviously, but just because you can doesn’t mean you should,” they added.
“Name your baby by this name if you want [brother-in-law]…to have to watch this kid for the rest of his life and feel sick and sad,” added Redditor u/keenbeeper, receiving over 6,000 upvotes. “You are the one who can explain to your kid why his … uncle can barely bear to look at her.”
Newsweek contacted u/aitababyname_ for comment.